Just change your ratio of these three kinds of statements - it works like magic
- "All he ever talks about is himself—what he's doing, what he's interested in, what his ideas are."
- “She constantly lectures me. She never asks what I think.”
- "There's no disagreeing with him. I just let him expound, and then I just try to change the subject."
- “She has an opinion about everything, and she’ll give it to you—whether you ask for it or not.”
The secret to being a good conversationalist - one whom people enjoy talking with, and whose company they seek - is very simple: It's talking with them, not to them or at them.